{"id":12604,"date":"2012-10-30T09:46:34","date_gmt":"2012-10-30T09:46:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.badreputation.org.uk\/?p=12604"},"modified":"2012-10-30T09:49:49","modified_gmt":"2012-10-30T09:49:49","slug":"musical-chairs-it-hurts-me-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/badreputation.org.uk\/2012\/10\/30\/musical-chairs-it-hurts-me-too\/","title":{"rendered":"Musical
Chairs: “It Hurts Me Too”"},"content":{"rendered":"
<p>
  <a
  href=\"http:\/\/www.badreputation.org.uk\/2012\/09\/27\/musical-chairs-shes-got-super-power-lovin\/\"
  target=\"_blank\"><em
    >Previous Musical Chair:
    <strong
      >Super Sexy Woman<\/strong> by Sufjan Stevens, picked by
      Hodge<\/em><\/a><\/p>\n
      <p>
        <iframe src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/nBA2REoRD98?rel=0\"
        frameborder=\"0\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n
      </p>
      <p>
        This song was brought into my life a few years ago by my Mum, a reliable
        source of excellent music. It&#8217;s a blues standard, but my preferred
        version is Elmore James&#8217; 1962 recording, with his incredible voice
        and slide guitar.<\/p>\n
      </p>
      <p>
        While
        <strong
          >It Hurts Me Too<\/strong> is superficially about a man&#8217;s love
          for a woman who loves another (highly unpleasant) man, to me it could
          as easily be about platonic love as romantic love. I&#8217;m bringing
          my own experiences to bear of course, but to me it sits on the same
          shelf as Strawberry Switchblade&#8217;s <a title=\"YouTube -
          Strawberry Switchblade Let Her Go\"
          href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/pjLjDLto_Eo\" target=\"_blank\"><strong
            >Let Her Go<\/strong><\/a> or the Dresden Dolls&#8217; <a
            title=\"YouTube - Dresden Dolls Delilah\"
            href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/rnnMad3c9y4\" target=\"_blank\"><strong
              >Delilah<\/strong><\/a>. It&#8217;s about watching from the
              sidelines, furious and helpless as someone you care about gets
              hurt, over and over again. For me it is inescapably about
              abuse.<\/p>\n
              <p>
                While the song is old and has been re-interpreted time and
                again, when Elmore James recorded his version he made some
                lyrical changes to the hit version recorded by <a
                title=\"YouTube - Tampa Red When Things Go Wrong With You\"
                href=\"http:\/\/youtu.be\/bYiU5JBiTPE\" target=\"_blank\">Tampa
                Red<\/a> in 1949. Comparing the two there&#8217;s a subtle shift
                from a reasonably upbeat song imploring an object of desire to
                leave a cheating no-gooder, to a heartbreaking lament for the
                trap in which a loved one has been snared.<\/p>\n
              </p>
              <p>
                For example, <a title=\"Lyricstime - Tampa Red, When Things Go
                Wrong With You\"
                href=\"http:\/\/www.lyricstime.com\/tampa-red-when-things-go-wrong-with-you-lyrics.html\"
                target=\"_blank\">Tampa Red<\/a> sings:<\/p>\n
              </p>
              <blockquote>
                <p>
                  That man you love, darlin&#8217;<br \ />\nHe don&#8217;t want
                  you &#8217;round<br \ />\nWhyn&#8217;t ya make love with
                  Tampa, darling?<br \ />\nAnd let&#8217;s jump the town<br
                    \
                  />\nWhen things go wrong, so wrong, with you<br \ />\nIt hurts
                  me, too<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
                </p>
                <p>And James sings:<\/p>\n</p>
                <blockquote>
                  <p>
                    He love another woman, yes, I love you,<br \ />\nBut, you
                    love him and stick to him like glue.<br \ />\nWhen things go
                    wrong, oh, wrong with you<br \ />\nIt hurts me
                    too.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
                  </p>
                  <p>
                    What I like best about it is that unlike many other blues
                    standards (and plenty of mainstream pop songs &#8211; see
                    Jimi Hendrix&#8217;s <a title=\"Sing 365 - Hey Joe\"
                    href=\"http:\/\/www.sing365.com\/music\/lyric.nsf\/Hey-Joe-lyrics-Jimi-Hendrix\/103C62A5FFA678AC4825695F0024E91A\"
                    target=\"_blank\"><strong
                      >Hey Joe<\/strong><\/a>, The Beatles&#8217; <a
                      title=\"Songmeanings - Run For Your Life\"
                      href=\"http:\/\/www.songmeanings.net\/songs\/view\/930\/\"
                      target=\"_blank\"><strong
                        >Run For Your Life<\/strong><\/a>, Tom Jones&#8217; <a
                        title=\"Lyricstime - Delilah\"
                        href=\"http:\/\/www.lyrics007.com\/Tom%20Jones%20Lyrics\/Delilah%20Lyrics.html\"
                        target=\"_blank\"><strong
                          >Delilah<\/strong><\/a>),
                          <strong
                            >It Hurts Me Too<\/strong> is a song about empathy,
                            not jealousy. The singer claims no ownership over
                            the woman, it&#8217;s her suffering that pains him,
                            not the fact he can&#8217;t have her. For me, it
                            works as an antidote to the musical tradition of the
                            jealous murder of women by men. I believe it&#8217;s
                            a song about love in the truest, broadest sense:
                            what you feel, I feel.<\/p>\n
                            <p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n</p>
                            <p>
                              <strong
                                >It Hurts Me Too<\/strong> \u00a0by Elmore
                                James<\/p>\n
                                <p>
                                  <em
                                    >You said you was hurtin&#8217;, you almost
                                    lost your mind.<br \ />\nNow, the man you
                                    love, he hurt you all the time.<br
                                      \
                                    />\nBut, when things go wrong, oh, wrong
                                    with you, It hurts me too.<\/p>\n
                                    <p>
                                      You&#8217;ll love him more when you should
                                      love him less.<br \ />\nWhy lick up behind
                                      him and take his mess?<br \ />\nBut, when
                                      things go wrong, whoa, wrong with you, It
                                      hurts me too.<\/p>\n
                                    </p>
                                    <p>
                                      He love another woman, yes, I love you,<br
                                        \
                                      />\nBut, you love him and stick to him
                                      like glue.<br \ />\nWhen things go wrong,
                                      oh, wrong with you, It hurts me
                                      too.<\/p>\n
                                    </p>
                                    <p>
                                      Now, he better leave you or you better put
                                      him down.<br \ />\nNo, I won&#8217;t stand
                                      to see you pushed around.<br \ />\nBut,
                                      when things go wrong, oh, wrong with you,
                                      It hurts me too.<\/em><\/p>\n
                                    </p>
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